The divorce process can be daunting for many people, and the most challenging barrier to cross is usually communication. At the first meeting with your attorney, it is expected that you may have some confusion and hesitation. But you should know that you can only succeed with your case if you are completely honest with your lawyer. Clear communication and honesty will save you a lot of trouble in the long run. This is why you should ignore the ball of anxiety in your stomach and tell the truth as is. 

We know how difficult this can be, so we have prepared a list to bring you up to speed about what your divorce attorney will talk to you about. This will help you get familiar with and ready for your next meeting. Continue reading to learn more. 

Your Perspective on the Divorce

The emotions around divorce can make or break your case. If you are feeling any hesitation, now is the time to question and look into it. People sometimes begin divorce proceedings without considering if they genuinely want a divorce. If filing for divorce is a way to get your partner’s attention in hopes of reconciliation, you should probably evaluate it, as this will defeat your lawyer’s goal. You should be clear on where you are about the marriage so that your attorney can argue for the best conditions for your splitting. If you are hoping to reconcile, your attorney may be able to act or refer you to a mediator. 

Properties and Assets 

We know you want to protect yourself, but you should know that keeping assets secret from your partner or the court during divorce proceedings is illegal. It will negatively impact your case and have you to lose more than you desire. If you are concerned about protecting your finances, you should discuss it with your attorney. 

They can help you devise a way to work through this so that your case is not harmed. 


This may not be easy to discuss, but you should know that it can impact your proceedings. If your partner has hurt you physically or done so to your children, you should discuss this. If there has been violence in your marriage, your attorney should know so they can weigh in on the impact of this on your divorce. If you believe you are at risk of harm or further abuse, your attorney will also provide help in restraining orders or housing/therapy to help support you. 


If there have been cases of infidelity in the course of your marriage, you should tell your attorney. This is necessary, even if you think the other party is unaware. Claims of infidelity will ruin your chances in court. If you have been exposed to health consequences due to your partner’s infidelity, this also applies to you. 

You may find it hard to talk about but be assured that your divorce attorney is not new in these things and will not judge you for it. You might be entitled to compensation for the distress you experienced. 

Your attorney will request other general information about your marriage, kids, nationality, etc. It would be best if you also shared information about finances and assets protection. Again, it is essential to be completely honest with your attorney. If you feel like their personality or beliefs prevent you from being entirely honest with them, you may need a new divorce lawyer.